Curious as to why you perk up at the idea of paying others? Do you find it hot to be commanded to spend money and even hotter to follow through on the command?
Whether you’re brand new to the findom community or returning from a spending hiatus, this guide is perfect to prepare you for sending and spending for the pleasure of your Dominant!
So, what exactly is findom? “Findom” is short for “financial domination.”
In financial domination, one submits- as in relinquishing power- through money and gifts. Whether you send because you’re told to or because you were just itching to, surrendering to a Dominant financially is the key to findom.
Findom does not mean “I sent $5 so I deserve content/attention/ANYTHING.” Findom does not mean “I spent $100 on You a decade ago so You need to cater to me!”
From a philosophy standpoint (yes this was entertaining to Me!), it would look something like “I spend, therefore I am (spending).”
Of course, you can pay for sessions from a Dominant. You can buy content from a Dominant if They sell any. You can be a wonderful customer that is respectful and eager to pay for stuff to cum to!
That is not being a finsub, however. That is simply being a decent customer/fetishist. True and pure finsubs send and find pleasuring in sending.
Now that you have a better understanding of findom, the guide to being a great finsub is simple:
Remember your place (and your budget).
When you decide you wish to submit to a Dominant with your finances, you have to understand that you are SUBMITTING to someone else.
Trying to top from the bottom (i.e. manipulating people into catering to your interests, holding money over people’s heads to get what you want, negging someone to get a free response out of them, etc.) or being otherwise uncouth is not an option.
Doing that would not only make you one of the worst excuses of a finsub but you ought not call yourself submissive to begin with.
This is your chance to deepen your submission by sacrificing in a way that goes beyond your horniness. If you only want to care about your sexual urges, I would not suggest findom for you in the first place. Instead, I would say stick to being a paying fetishist.
I say know your budget because not doing so may lead to a feeling of regret because you’ve spent well out of your bounds. You do not need to be filthy rich to participate in findom (while it is preferred). You are an adult and are expected to be responsible and conscious of your decisions.
For subs that wish to be in a long-term D/s relationship with Me, I even make sure to ask their budget from the beginning in My sub application. Knowing one’s budget also helps Me figure out how compatible we are and, if we are, I can best figure a dynamic most pleasant for the both of U/us. You can find the application (and apply if you’re interested) HERE!
Spend more than you speak.
One of the most annoying things that a finsub can do is overstay their welcome in a Dominant’s space. You were given the privilege in being able to submit. YOU came to THEM because YOU wanted to spend on THEM. This being said, We very much like it when finsubs pay more than they speak because it shows that they are more invested in Us than they are in themselves.
Sure, I love subs with personality and those that spend lots on Me are more likely to connect with Me because they show they wish to sacrifice for Me and they not only know but enjoy their place as a human wallet.
There is also a very sexy, mysterious vibe to subs sending silently. I don’t have to know who they are because what’s important is they know what I want and provide it!
You are a WALLET, so act like it!
The moment you believe you are “owed” anything for sending, you stop being a finsub.
Of course, fetishists and submissives that are not finsubs are valid. I enjoy them when they behave. However, feeling entitled to the time of the Superior you serve solely because you did what you were supposed to very easily can lead to a bad end to your D/s relationship.
To approach as a finsub and then not act like one would mean you actively lied. BDSM is built on trust. If you have to lie to get the attention you want in the findom community, you most certainly do not deserve it.
If you want to be a finsub, do not be surprised when you are treated as one and thus held to the standards of one.
If you aren’t eager to spend to make Me happy, you aren’t fit to be a finsub of Mine.
In short:
The 3 Steps to Being a Useful Finsub
1. Know your place and your budget.
2. Talk less, send more.
3. Accept that you are a WALLET and nothing more.
If you remember these three things, you’ll always be a step ahead of other finsubs and will lower the chance of you getting on a Dominant’s bad side!
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